5 Simple Ways To Quickly Figure Out If a Person Is Toxic
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No one wants to be around a person who makes you feel bad about yourself; such “toxic” people can confuse us, however, as they can come off as being fun and charming, because they have honed their skills at being manipulative. They are very good at disguising their toxicity by camouflaging their damaging behavior by being interesting, helpful and fun. So the question becomes, how can you spot the warning signs of toxicity, before it impacts your happiness and self-esteem?
Whether you are dating a person, or you have a growing friendship, look out for these RED-FLAG TOXIC BEHAVIORS:
1. SHE IS A BLAMER.
You notice when she talks about conflicts with other friends, or issues at work, she never sees her part in the problem. If you ask anything that might promote her reflecting on what she said or did, she will always come up with “yes but…”. As conflicts come up between the two of you and you try to address the issue, THE BLAMER will become hostile and manipulate you into believing that you are the problem.
2. HE SHOWS DISRESPECT TO PEOPLE IN SERVICE ROLES.
You go out to dinner and he talks to the server in a tone that denotes superiority. He tends to break minor rules, acting as if they don’t matter and only apply to other people; cleaning up after himself isn’t his job and turning off his cell-phone in a movie theater is ridiculous…he can’t miss messages even if it disturbs others. This is a red flag that he will likely treat your needs and feelings with disregard.
3. SHE TALKS INCESSANTLY ABOUT HERSELF AND HER ACHIEVEMENTS.
If you feel like you can’t get a word in, you are in a relationship with a NARCISSIST! When you try to share things about yourself, she will interrupt by saying something that makes you feel she is identifying with you, and bring the conversation back to herself. If you stay in this relationship, over time you might have some major life success. The toxic person will be uncomfortable with your success, because it makes them feel insecure and competitive. You may find that they minimize your achievement, brush it off, or say something that makes you doubt your success by pointing out the negatives. Your success means you need her less.
4. YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS.
Anytime you want to discuss your feelings about something, that involves even the most mild conflict, he reacts as if he is being attacked. He becomes defensive and aggressive, making any kind of conflict resolution impossible. He turns everything around and eventually breaks your resolve, and then will quite unexpectedly show you love or affection. He feels safe being close to you when you are weak.
5. WHEN SOMEONE ELSE IS THE CENTER OF ATTENTION THEY BECOME HOSTILE.
Other people’s glory makes her feel jealous, as exhibited by gossiping behavior that attempts to inflict damage to the other person’s reputation or friendships. They suck the air out of the room because their needs must be met above everyone else’s.
In the VIDEO you are about to watch below produced by “ScienceofPeople.com”, you will hear an excellent guide to SPOTTING TOXIC PEOPLE, that names 7 PERSONALITY TYPES that are red flags which she names:
1. CONVERSATIONAL NARCISSIST
2. THE STRAIGHT JACKET
3. EMOTIONAL MOOCHER
4. DRAMA MAGNET
5. A JJ: A Jealous Judgemental Person
6. THE FIBBER
7. A TANK
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